How do you deal with being a 13-year-old gay?
The most important thing is for you to find a trusted adult to talk to about your situation. If you can, your parents may be the best. If not a sympathetic teacher, guidance counselor, clergy, or your family doctor may be best. Perhaps you have an older sister or brother whom you can talk to.
Although things have improved, many are still hostile to gay people and you have to insure that you protect yourself. You may decide to “come out” to some people and keep your sexual orientation secret with others. Like any teen, straight or gay, you should protect yourself against sexual exploitation by others.
There may be a teen help telephone service in your community that you can call. Sometimes there are specific gay helplines.
Although sexuality can present many challenges, it is also a source of joy and energy. You will, over the next few years, learn more about yourself as a sexual person. You will make many decisions and may regret some (most of us do). Be gentle with yourself. Strive to do what you think is right.