My 16-year-old daughter met up with a boy (friend) yesterday, they got very drunk and I think they had sex although my daughter doesn’t really remember. She has very low self esteem and thinks she is stupid, so this is probably the reason why she did it. I don’t know how to make her feel better, I am at a total loss of what to do. I don’t even know what to write. This is the second time she has been very drunk in the last few months and I really don’t want her to do it again.
The first thing to help her feel better about herself is to stop her from binge drinking. You will likely have to keep closer track of where she is and who she is with. Insist on it.
Secondly, you are right to worry about her self esteem. Look for a counsellor who can help her with her feelings.
Third, ensure she has adequate birth control. Getting pregnant will only make her situation worse. Have her speak to her doctor.
Her doctor or counsellor will not tell you what they talked about. However, you should speak to the doctor or counsellor to tell her or him what you are concerned about in advance of them meeting with your daughter.
Finally, she needs her parents’ love more than anything right now. Find the time to do things with her.