Author Archives: Dr. Pat

Verbal abuse at home is affecting my granddaughter’s self esteem.

I have a 16-year-old granddaughter, her father is not happy in the marital relationship, and therefore without meaning to, is verbally abusing the daughter.  It is obvious that the father is hurting terribly inside.  The verbal abuse is harming my … Continue reading

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What can I do to protect my child from bullying at school? – Part Two

Last time we discussed how you can help your school deal with bullying. Bullying is not only a systems problem, it is a personal problem. This time, I will focus on how you can help your child avoid being the … Continue reading

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What can I do to protect my child from bullying at school?

My kids go to a school where there was a lot of publicity about bullying, the police were involved. Although my children were not severely involved last year, there were some problems. I am concerned with what might happen this … Continue reading

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Is my 5-year-old too young for a conversation about death?

My sister recently passed away from cancer and my 5-year-old son is having trouble understanding what happened. He believes his aunt is “sleeping” and will “feel better soon.” Is there something we should be doing to help him make sense … Continue reading

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How can I help my daughter focus on her goals so she won’t get frustrated or bored?

My daughter is a vibrant and enthusiastic 11-year-old. She loves trying new things, such as drawing classes and soccer. But when the activity becomes too challenging or not challenging enough, her excitement fades and she loses focus. I’m wondering how … Continue reading

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How can I stop my son from stealing money from us?

My 14-year-old son is constantly stealing his sister’s money. When we find out, we always talk to him about it. Sometimes it ends up with an apology and his giving the money back but other times he spends the money … Continue reading

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Are my sons health concerns a sign of more serious mental health issues?

My son is eleven and half years old. Almost six months ago he started to show worries about different parts of his body. One day he thinks something is wrong with his eyes and asks for my assurance that nothing … Continue reading

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How can I help my daughter who has started throwing up before and during dance competitions?

My daughter has been competing in dance for the last two years without any problem, but she has recently started to throw up before and during competition.  However, she still goes through with it and competes.  It is becoming very stressful … Continue reading

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How do I deal with my eight-year-old son who has been masturbating at school?

I have recently been having trouble with my eight-year-old son who was caught masturbating by his dad in our living room while he and his brother (age four) were watching a movie. My husband talked to him about it and … Continue reading

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Witnessing a traumatic event has resulted in OCD behaviours in my son.

I read one of your letters/emails from a woman whose nephew washes his hands a lot. My son does this as well. It started after he and my husband were in a fatal car crash. My husband, my son and … Continue reading

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